I am often startled by the way family members talk to one another. On one hand it makes sense. Our family members are those we generally feel most comfortable around, and worry about impressing least. They are pretty much stuck with us whether we treat them well or not, we reason. Since we feel guaranteed … Continue reading Are your kids mean to you?
Back when my husband and I were in the midst of fertility treatments- which for us was mainly waiting punctuated by annoying doctor visits-I had several strategies to keep me connected to the hope of motherhood without despairing over the possible alternative. Most of these strategies basically consisted of acting as if I were pregnant. … Continue reading Humans Need Schedules
I’ve been married for almost 10 years now, and looking back at the beginning of my marriage is very much like reminiscing about my childhood or adolescence. Sure there is a bit of heart-warming nostalgia, but mostly it was hard, and I’m glad I’m past those lessons. Life has never been better than it is … Continue reading Being in Love
If you find yourself constantly defending your parenting to others, ask yourself this-why are you so busy trying to convince yourself that what you’re doing is okay? If you aren’t confident in your own parenting, then I generally suggest one of two things. Either way, start by evaluating the parenting choices you are making. Then, … Continue reading Please Stop Justifying
I am not a parent. (Though not by choice.) I am an observer of parents. I am an informal interviewer of parents. I am a teacher, and I partner with parents to grow young minds. I love and appreciate parents. Most likely, if you have found me and are reading this particular post, you ARE … Continue reading Being a Parent
I once had a first grade student, whom I will refer to as Cadence. Cadence was hysterical, kind, inquisitive, passionate. She thought deeply about the world, had a strong vocabulary, and big opinions. A delightful human being all around. Though generally thoughtful and respectful, I started to notice a hint of sass sneak into her … Continue reading Raising Respect
I love new beginnings. In fact, I love them so much, I tend to build them into my life regularly. Something about the chance to start fresh is inspiring. Like a blank canvas waiting to be infused with color. This year, in 2020, I want to get just a little bit better at seeing the … Continue reading Happy New Decade!
I’ve worked with a lot of children. While their similarities are real and significant, their differences are what really challenge me to think about my goals for them in a new way. I am by nature an idealist, and thus, I envision a bright tomorrow full of kind, intelligent, happy adults who were once the … Continue reading Making Great Adults
I got my December issue of Family Circle yesterday and the front cover reads “The Busy Mom’s Guide to the Holidays: Get it Done, Keep it Fun!” I had to stifle a gag reflex as I read the words, but my main emotional response was not disgust, it was sadness. This is such a beautiful … Continue reading December Thoughts